FLASH
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As the holidays approach, unexpected messages from ex-partners who we haven't heard from in a while can disrupt our emotional peace, and this happens much more often than we think. But this face of comeback is not mysterious or magical, it has clear and understandable psychological explanations.
Christmas awakens nostalgia, not necessarily love
The holidays are a time when we pause our daily routine and begin to take stock, not only of the year that is ending, but also of the connections and feelings we have had. Memories of the past often appear not as a complete film, but are selected by the mind and the beautiful moments are retained more than the painful ones. This selective nostalgia can make past relationships seem sweeter than they really were, and this does not just happen during the holiday season.
The pain of loneliness makes us seek the one who knows the heart.
When the pace of the day slows down and we are more often alone, loneliness can become more apparent. Around Christmas, when every place seems filled with families and couples, the desire to feel connected, even to someone from the past, increases.
An ex-partner is someone you really know, with shared memories and familiar intimacy, and this makes contact with them seem like a “shortcut” to feeling good again. This doesn’t necessarily mean that love is returning, but it is often a reflection of the emotional need to not feel alone.
What does psychology think before we answer?
When such a message arrives, whether it's a "Merry Christmas" or something more romantic, the first question we should ask is not "do I want to resume this relationship?", but how does this contact really make me feel?
Does it bring peace and joy, or perhaps does it bring up old hurts and doubts?
Not every message has a romantic purpose; it is often a reflection of the emotions of the moment and the desire for closeness at a time when feelings of loneliness are amplified. Taking time to reflect and not responding immediately is often the best choice.
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