FLASH
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Ten years is a long time, but for Bashkim Dobrushin, 55 years old, time stopped on that terrible day when his ex-wife Edlira killed his three daughters, Simona, 13 years old; Keisin, 10, and Sidny, just 3, in what has been described as the Chiuso massacre, a still-open wound in the Lecco community.
A terrible massacre - which took place on the night between 8 and 9 March 2014 in a building in Bergamo - an event that shocked not only the small community of Chiuso, where the family and the three girls were well known, but also the city and the whole country.
Bashkimi, who is now remarried, is the father of a 6-year-old son, left Italy last Saturday at 17:00 for Kukës, his hometown, for the anniversary. There he will pray at the grave of his daughters with about sixty relatives and friends. The 55-year-old buried the girls next to each other and then built a tombstone where they appear together.
"If my ex-wife wanted to hurt me, she could have killed me - says Bashkimi with tears in her eyes in a story for Il Giornale - she could have done it while I was sleeping; a few years ago in Albania it happened that a woman killed her husband in his sleep. But not my daughters. There is no apology for this."
"We had been separated for a month, I had gone to live with my brother. It was she who made this decision.
We never met again. I told her that the important thing is that the girls do not suffer. I went to them to say hello on March 7, the next day I left for Albania where I had to stop for a week.
They couldn't come with me because they had school. I never would have thought that this was the last time I would see them. Never! We live in a difficult world, but who would have thought that children are not safe with their mother?
A woman who carried them in her womb for nine months, who took care of them… Just think about this: what are the most dangerous animals in nature? They are protecting their cubs. It wasn't like that for my daughters." When did you find out what had happened?
"I left on March 8, a drive to Bari and then took the ferry from there. Ten hours in total. As soon as I arrived, I was greeted by my brothers. Nobody said anything to me. When I entered the house I wanted to turn on the TV, but I was told that it was broken, because the Italian and Albanian news had been talking for hours about what had happened. My brother allowed me to take a shower, then he said: "Union, we have to go back to Italy, your wife tried to poison the girls, now they are in the hospital."
So we rushed to the agency to get a plane ticket. After the flight, on the journey I lived with the hope of finding them alive, with the thought that God would protect them. But they were no longer there. Under my brother's house, at Chiuso, I saw a great crowd; then at that moment they told me: "Baskim are dead, you have to be brave, she stabbed them at night".
And my world fell apart."
Then the burial. Why did you decide to bury them in Albania?
"The mayor, Virginio Brivio, asked me if I wanted to bury them in Lecco, but I chose to take them to the Kukes cemetery, where my parents, brother and some grandchildren are. So they won't be alone. Father Angelo Cupini came to pray at their grave twice; we are Muslims, but this has never been an obstacle for us".
You have been living in Italy for 24 years, do you plan to stay in Lecco or will you return to Albania?
"I received Italian citizenship on April 3, 2018 (Simone's birthday) and two days later my child was born. Last year my wife got it too. We also bought a house in Maggianico, we will continue to live in Italy where I have many friends. Thanks to the love of my relatives and the whole city, I survived the massacre, even though the pain accompanies me every day of my life."
Baskim shows us the mobile phone, there are many photos of his son, but also of Simona, Keisy and Sidny, many family moments, where the girls smile and hug their father.
"They say that women are closer to their fathers, men to their mothers, I think this is true. Simona was like a mother to her sisters; a little woman, even her teachers told me so. She would have to decide which school to attend, she didn't know yet, she liked volleyball. If she were here today, she would be 23 years old. Who knows, maybe I would have been a grandfather. Keisy attended a dance school, was in elementary school. She also did well in school, she was wilder. And then Sidney, the little one, when I got home from work she ran up to me and hugged me."
After what happened, did you ever meet your ex-wife?
"Never. I learned from you in Il Giornale that after five years it had been entrusted to a community. I don't care if it's in hell or heaven, because my pain will never change.”
After the massacre in Chiuso, you rebuilt your life. Are you happy today?
"It is a difficult question to answer. My son and my wife are my joy and deserve my love, attention and consideration. Of course, there is always that terrible anxiety in the heart that does not go away. There are days when I feel fragile. Ten years is a long time and yet they are always by my side. Sometimes I look up and it feels like they are there... next to me./ Liberale.al
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