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The house is empty for Irsa Muçollari's parents. The questions about what led the 16-year-old to commit suicide last Monday still have unanswered answers, except for suspicions about bullying at school that swirl in their minds.
Irsa's mother, Mirela Muçollari, says: "It will remain a burden for my whole life and in my head I only have 'WHY? WHY?'. Who upset me so much and no one understood? We loved him so much. I lived for him, I worked for him! To find the child when he came home from work in that condition. I gave him breath, I didn't save him!".
Ilir Muçollari, Irsa's father, says: "Recently I noticed that her behavior had changed, she was a little more upset, but we never thought that our daughter would go to this point. She was very polite, very good, very wise, I would ask her when she came home from school: 'How did you get through the bad times, dad?' Good, dad is fine. This also surprised us."
Iliri and Mirela try to remember their last conversations with the girl, before the act of self-sacrifice.
"On the last day, he came to me 20 minutes before school was supposed to end, he told me we finished early. A week ago, he cried and told his mother to change my class because they don't learn. It's 6 hours, how can I stand it every day like this. They act like crazy, he told me. They laughed in vain, talked in vain and I don't like it. He wanted to go to the class that had the 9-year-old's friends. I told him to mind his own business, ignore them. He told me to do that, but it's 6 hours, mom, he told me. I'll get the teacher, we'll change the desk. No, no, he said it's worse like this. Apparently he was ashamed that his friends would bully him again. No, no, I made a mistake telling you...", said the mother.
Now they understand the emotional burden their daughter has felt. "They found some letters written in English about the bullying. In another letter it said should I tell my father or not?", said Iliri. Irsa was a chess champion in elementary school, gifted in painting, talented in foreign languages but not very social. She knew herself very well, as she describes in this letter the task of comparing herself to her only friend.
"You're very good, they told me and the teachers. She's a little shy... She's also the type I told you about. But activate her so that she can open up. She was better than she should have been, she closed in on herself and took everything with her", said Mirela. In great pain, Mirela searches Irsa's room to find a sign, a reason that could justify her daughter's actions. The great sadness that the tragedy brought. "Even if you gave her 200 lek, even 100 lek or not giving her anything at all, you wouldn't have worried about her. She was so understandable. She never asked for anything with difficulty. Irsa understood everything. Now we all have economic difficulties! But we haven't left anything unfulfilled for Irsa", said her father.
Irsa's parents, today found the strength to give a message to other parents: to listen to the silence of the children. "When parents come here to comfort them, they all tell us that they have been bullied and we are completely shocked, they tell me how much bullying is, how much it is. It happened to us, at least it doesn't happen to others, it should be like an alarm bell, to stay as close to the children as possible, to ask them about everything. Parents should never think that their children are perfect without going to school, without seeing the class level, that they will suffer unexpectedly and without warning", they said. /OraNews/
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