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It's one of the most common, and most personal, questions that arise in a relationship: How often should a couple have sex to maintain connection and intimacy? Although the answer seems to depend on desire, age, or daily routine, science says otherwise.
According to one of the most well-known experts in the field of sexual health, Prof. Nicole McNichols, a professor of sexology at the University of Washington, there is an ideal frequency that serves as a “sweet spot” for most couples. And no, it’s not as frequent as most people think.
McNichols, who teaches one of the university's most popular courses, "The Diversity of Human Sexuality," has analyzed patterns of sexual satisfaction and relationship longevity in thousands of couples, based on personal diaries of mood, mental health, and sexual activity.
The findings are clear: it's not necessarily a good relationship that leads to better sex, but the opposite. Increased sexual satisfaction is what brings more sensitivity, closeness, and pleasure to the couple.
" When the way people feel about their sex lives improves, then happiness in the relationship increases ," McNichols said on the New York Times' popular Modern Love podcast.
If you feel guilty about not having time for sex every day, there's good news: science suggests that once a week is enough for most couples to maintain pleasure and emotional closeness.
“ After that pace, the benefits to the relationship don’t increase significantly ,” says McNichols. Of course, if a couple wants and has the means for more, there’s nothing wrong with that, but it doesn’t necessarily translate into more long-term satisfaction.
So, there is no need for pressure or comparison with others. What is more important is quality and sensitivity, not just frequency.
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