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Arbenita Ismajli has published a long reaction on social media, where she has revealed strong details from her relationship with her ex-husband, rapper Fero.
In her writing, Arbenita lists a series of accusations against him, citing substance abuse, violence, betrayal, lack of parental responsibility and manipulation. She has shown that she often found herself alone to support the family, paying for travel, expenses and everything else.
Arbenita adds that their daughter has witnessed the rapper's violent behavior, which has traumatized her as well. She points out that despite her efforts to allow Fero to see her daughter, he has refused the conditions of safe visits and has chosen, according to her, to create drama on the Internet for clicks. At the end of her message, the famous model addresses all women facing similar situations:
"I know it seems like an impossible battle to win, but please break the cycle. If I did it, you can do it too. I am free from a dark past and I will never go back," Arbenita writes, among other things.
Her full reaction:
He's right, his story was never told, because I don't want my daughter and everyone else to think he's a monster. Let me tell you a few of them:
1. Cocaine abuse (I paid for his rehab and he went back to her).
2. Cheating on the child's mother with multiple wives (not talking without proof).
3. Not having a stable income and never providing for his child (the judge knows he never paid for anything).
4. Abuse of the child's primary caregiver, physically abusing her (all the proof is in court).
5. Hit his mother while she was pregnant with that child, also his mother, sister, my sister (without waiting for my daughter's turn).
6. Constant conflicts and fights with everyone in his musical circle and beyond - not to mention being in jail several times.
7. I found out he sells drugs (what example is he setting for his child?).
8. He can't even take care of himself (he still sleeps in bed with his mother sometimes).
9. He refused to divorce me even after I begged him for 3 months straight.
10. Throughout our relationship, I paid for everything: travel, house, car, food (even his father's hospital, all their bills, especially his brother who I was supporting).
11. He continues to use our child as a tool of revenge, because of the divorce.
12. His family is also abusive, they stole money, clothes, cars and everything they could get from me (and they were supporting him in everything, especially his mother).
13. I always allowed free visits, he showed up at my door whenever he wanted.
14. He was informed about all the vacations we took with our child and when we moved to other countries.
15. After he didn't like that we didn't live in Kosovo (which is not my country, and we got divorced), he changed the visits to make my life more difficult with my career and the relocation.
16. He made a false statement in court in September 2024 and won custody.
17. When the court ruled that this was illegal and that I should be the primary caregiver, they returned custody to me.
18. After that, it was too dangerous for me to return to Kosovo and continue the visits to the social center (which I never agreed to do, as it had a very bad impact on my child's mental health, it is better to keep visits limited).
19. He has been violent even after we have been separated for so many months, he has forcibly kissed me (for which he is already being charged in court), he has threatened me and my family constantly.
20. He suddenly became religious so that people would think he was a moral and good person, and lied publicly saying that he had never hit me (even though the court has all the evidence) or abused me in any way.
21. He called me a “gold digger” while I was providing for the family. He never bought me a single bag.
22. The house he lives in is mine, there is a legal issue as his father owes me 50 thousand euros and he has not paid it back.
23. In the social centers during visits with his daughter, he only wanted to talk to me, to reunite, trying to scare me.
24. During the interviews he gave, his statements were full of lies and false accusations.
25. I am trying to protect my daughter from all this toxicity, manipulation and lies. If he behaved with respect and wanted to have a good co-parenting relationship like a real man does, I would have no objections.
26. Despite all this, I have allowed him to see Nina, because his intentions are not sincere and he only seeks revenge.
27. To this day, I have never said anything negative about her father in front of my daughter.
28. Unfortunately, our daughter has seen his violent and abusive behavior towards me and everyone around him, so she is also afraid.
29. He insisted on seeing the daughter at the social center where visits were supervised by staff, making her feel restricted, scared and uncomfortable, as it was not a family environment, causing her to refuse to go with him during the visit.
30. He signed over full custody to me in January of this year, an agreement that I have all the rights to where Nina will go to school, where she will live, and who she will see, etc.
31. Since then he has tried many times to arrange visits in a safe environment that would cause Nina only minimal emotional distress, but he has refused, saying that he would only see her at the social center in Kosovo.
32. To this day he is harassing me and my family on WhatsApp.
33. Despite all the challenges I have had, I have still made efforts for him to see the girl, but he continues to refuse and create online drama using her name for clicks.
34. My advice to all women going through the same thing: I know it seems like an impossible battle to win, but please break the cycle, if I did it, you can do it too.
35. I am free from a dark past and will never go back.
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