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"Earthquake on 7 fronts" - this is how Dalina Buzi described her divorce, which happened 2 years ago.
Invited to Alketa Vejsi's podcast, she showed that she tried to pull herself together, as she knew there was no turning back. Dalina admits that she was not prepared for the divorce to come after 15 years of marriage, but adds that it did not continue, as there were big cracks and fissures between them.
"There was an earthquake, it was a big earthquake. That moment is the 6-7 magnitude earthquake and everyone collecting their own pieces, some a little longer, some a little shorter, but it was felt that it was the closure, it was felt that there was no going back. No matter how much you are prepared, know, feel that the relationship is not good, it is still like the question of death: The doctor tells you that you have three months to live, but you do not know whether you will die on Wednesday at five o'clock or on Tuesday at two o'clock in the morning. You are never prepared for death, just as you are not prepared for the day when you actually see that the foundation has been shaken, the earthquake has cracked and you have nothing more to do. You will come back the next day, but you can't continue because there are no cracks, there are big cracks, ditches"
How did you spend the period after the divorce? Here's what Dalina said:
"After the breakup, I entered all the world's forums, all kinds of forums, in Russian, in Italian, in German, with Google Translate and I wanted to see similar situations and in every kind of situation I was condemned. In a similar situation, if I were a man, it would be 'ok' and I was scared, shocked. I began to see myself through their eyes, it is very dangerous to see yourself through the eyes of others. I had a big cross, the first cross as a mother, what I did, it was crushing'
However, it seems that the separation has made Dalina know herself better, and herself as a mother.
"The period after the separation has been one of the most interesting periods in my life, difficult but interesting and it was good that it happened. No, the separation, not the breakdown of the family, but that period. It was a period when I got to know a Dalina that I didn't know at all, I had no idea at all. I was always very pampered, I did what I wanted, financially I was very good, but first I faced Dalina mother, which was very important.
I went through those first two weeks that are those noises that everyone goes through and then I saw the thing as productive, for real, as I do at work. I looked at her from afar and said that there are four Dalina: It is public Dalina, not only on Instagram, but as soon as she opens the door. It is Dalina in the profession, Dalina as a mother and Dalina who am I, why did this happen, why did I make this choice, why did this end and my share of responsibility," she emphasized.
The rest of her statement:
"I said now what are you going to deal with, who is my priority. The last one on this list was to hang around, I didn't have time because I am Dalina the mother and children never ask, especially when they are pre-teens;
Dalina in public: Why do I have to explain myself to people? Have I asked who I have chosen, what career I have chosen, what I have done? Never! With all due respect, I didn't care for that part at all.
Dalina in her career: All my life I have done this, I have chosen my job. I told myself that I will go to work and pretend, I don't do this, it is a big, heavy, difficult thing, a big cross that I was carrying. I don't care about work at all, because I had two other Dalinas to deal with.
First, I can't repeat the same mistakes, I'm tired of making the same mistakes, I'm tired of being afraid to face myself, I'm tired of having my insecurities. It was very tiring and not worth it anymore.
I said I will transform, here we go back to the physical and spiritual state, I will become the Dalina I want. This Dalina must be parallel to Dalina the mother. Here I realized that no matter how good a mother I was, I was not a mother, I was never a mother because I took children for granted. But, fate wanted and this was the most interesting and most beautiful thing that happened, I say beautiful that there are also beautiful things that happen from misfortune and it brought me this thing, at an age when I was the most challenging age, pre-adolescence that it is the most spiritually and psychologically challenging age for the parent;
In this process, which is not a very easy process and I thought at first that it's okay, I told them, these are 'cool', my daughter watches "Dr. House" now, she has black humor and this thing was easy. But it was not at all, they carried this situation with them.
I said to myself: Forget about work and don't ask about the public at all. At four o'clock I was home every day, for a year and a half I was home every day. I wasn't at home with my cell phone, like I was other times, I was with them'
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